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"Serious" Relationship FAQ

How Soon is Too Soon?

Written by: R. Mays – Posted: Mon May 19th, 2008
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You have passed the awkward "first few dates" stage, and now you have been going on for a few months with your man. You can already imagine yourself walking down the aisle with him and maybe even what your children will look like and what their names will be. Is it normal for you to be imagining these things? Is it a good idea to openly discuss them with your beau after a few months? Check out these frequently asked questions about "serious" relationships and when it's time to take things up a notch.

We've been dating for a few months. We never made things "official," but I call him my boyfriend and we see each other often. Should I introduce him to my parents?
It all depends on what your parents think of your budding relationship. If they don't know anything about it -- sure! Casually plan an introduction, say over brunch one morning. Invite your parents and your boyfriend to a low-pressure setting (not a fancy restaurant or house!) like a cafe and make the introduction. If your parents are somewhat clued-in to your relationship and seem to approve of it, get permission to invite your beau to your parents' house (or your house if you've moved out) and plan dinner and a board game. If your parents seem to disapprove of the relationship but still let you go out, have them shake his hand at the door and exchange names.

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i think that (for the first Q), you should not introduce him as ur
boyfriend to ur parents. you may say he is with ur friends on to
him but he's just taking the easy way out. i think making
something official is important b/c next thing u no ---he doesn't
believe in marraige and why does a piece of paper make it legit?
or at leat that's wat im thinking his arguement will seem like.
but it all depends on wat u want in your man/fiancee/husband
watever. in the end, im sure every girl wants the guy that can
commit to them. and slying their way out of being legit bf/gf
(seems small) can lead to getting out of other things such as
already mentioned.

ps --if u introduce him to ur rents as ur friend... he'll prbo
come round and ask why u did that... then ull go cuz we've never
really made it legit and if i tell my rents that then i wanna make
sure it is. ull prob be legit after that. and if not... theeen
we've got other issues to talk about.